Generally speaking, it’s perfectly safe to have sex whilst you’re pregnant.
If you’ve had miscarriages you might want to protect yourself but it’s now recognised that if a miscarriage is going to occur, it will do so whether you have sex beforehand or not.
It’s a good idea to follow your own instincts and do what feels right for you. If you have experienced some bleeding during early pregnancy and/or have had a previous miscarriage then you may feel more comfortable abstaining from sex for a while during this time.
If you’ve experienced a previous pregnancy loss, or who have taken a long time to conceive, you really might feel like you want to be very careful during early pregnancy. Similarly, some partners might feel nervous about causing a miscarriage or harming the foetus in some way. The evidence says this isn’t the case, but not respecting your partner’s wishes may result in them feeling guilty, nervous or anxious and lead to relationship conflicts. If your partner does concede to having sex, they probably won’t enjoy it and may experience anxiety or stress worrying about it afterwards. Understanding and patience might be needed.
If your scans show that your placenta is lying low near the cervix you may find that you bleed after sex. Discuss this with your midwife or obstetrician as they will be able to advise you on any risks associated with sex while your placenta is positioned this way.
Women with low-lying placentas in later pregnancy sometimes need extra care and may even need to be admitted to a maternity hospital if they begin to bleed vaginally.
Opt for positions that are comfortable to you, your bump and your cervix. Having your partner spooning from behind when your bump is big allows you to lie on your side and the penetration isn’t so deep.
However, you both may enjoy more cuddling during this time too especially towards the end of your pregnancy when you may feel very uncomfortable and tired.
If you use massage oils make sure that you do not use essential oils that are not safe for pregnancy such as black pepper, rosemary and clary sage.