Parents hate to hear their baby crying, and humans have evolved to make it difficult to ignore this signal of need.In our video, our midwife Alison Ross shows you the main causes of crying in babies and what they sound like.As a parent, you need to learn to distinguish between a cry of pain, which is urgent and high pitched, and a hungry cry, a tired cry and a fed-up or uncomfortable cry.We have filmed babies having their vaccinations, before a feed and with a dirty nappy to show you what those babies sound like, and, as you get to know your baby, you will learn to identify your baby’s different cries.
Quite a lot of crying is preventable – you can minimise it with a few simple parenting tricks.Your baby loves to be near you and next to your skin. Having your baby in a sling means they’ll feel very supported and attached to you. You will also be very aware of when they become hungry or need a nappy change. This will help prevent a lot of crying.
Sleeping close to them also means that they do not have to cry really loudly to get your attention from another room. You will also be able to feed them more quickly and more frequently. These ancient parenting techniques can help you to respond quickly and sensitively to your baby.
Try to go through the reasons your baby might be crying in a process of elimination – like a Midwife would do.
Usually if you work through this list in a systematic way, you’ll find the reason.
If your baby is constantly crying, and there really seems to be no reason for it, she may be suffering from colic, and you should take her to see your Midwife or GP/ Doctor.
There’s a sound that Mothers make all over the world when they are soothing their babies. It’s a Ssssssshing sound. They also gently rock their babies, or rub them. The reason these sounds and movements are so effective is that they mimic the sounds and movements of being in the womb.
If you are feeling overwhelmed by your baby’s crying you should speak to your GP or health visitor.If you are desperate and at home by yourself, remember it’s better for you to leave your baby safely in his cot and to step outside for 10 minutes to calm down, than to shout at your baby or shake them. This will make the crying worse and could possibly harm them. Making sure they’re safe, and then stepping away for a short while can really help.
If you are feeling depressed and stressed you should know that this is very common for a new Mum or Dad. The first step is to talk to someone – friends and family if you think they might help – and/ or healthcare professionals like your Midwife or Doctor.
For further advice and support go to the charity Cry-sis, which offers support for families with excessively crying, sleepless and demanding babies.If you are worried that you or your partner may be suffering from postnatal depression you should speak to your GP or Doctor to get further advice and treatment.If you’re feeling stressed it does not mean that you do not love your baby and with support you can begin to recover.